How to be a good friend for kids?

Hello Friends,

 

Nowadays, It is a genuine problem of all the parents as well as kids that both are not giving time to each other due to a busy working schedule. Children always complain that their parents don't give time to them and Parents reply that we are doing jobs just for you. If we don't earn money then how can you get the things of your choice? But for kids all these replies are excuses.

                               On the second side, when parents ask children to sit with them and spend some time. Then children reply that it's boring instead of it they love to play or watching t.v. etc. alone. 

Most of the time kids are busy with mobile phones, computers, and different electronic gadgets.

After a few years, parents usually said, " my kids don't give time to me. They don't take care of us. They just think about themselves......".

Children give the same reply that parents gave them when they were kids that we are earning for you and our family, the betterment of our kids...

But is it really true that both the parties really don't have time for each other?????

The answer is No........ a Big No...

For parents,

                  You can't be a good friend of your kids in a single day. It is a long time process, which starts from the childhood of your kid. You have to realize your kid that no one is better than you for him or her. 

But now you will ask me. We all know that. We do the same. Oh really..... You think so?

Tell me what is friendship?

To do anything that you ask is a friendship????????????

According to me No, it's not. 

Friendship is that when you are not bounded to do anything. You are free to do your choice. But your mind realizes that the things that your friend things for you are right.

Indirectly you will do the things of your friends' choice.

So, You have to become a friend of this type for your kid.

I know you will say, " then tell us how to be a friend like this for kids?"

The Answer is--- Always share your good and bad experiences with your kids from their childhood. But one thing keeps in mind. In the starting age, only share good experiences. While they are growing start to share your bad and worse experiences. 

Now, you all will think about what will happen if we do this.

Your kid we start realizing that his parents never hide something from him/her. So he also starts to do the same. 

This is the first step to climb the ladder of friendship.

Few more things you have to do:

* Sharing of your opinion and take the suggestion from your child. So, he feels that he is important to you.

* Talk about the day for example: what you did in school, what your friends ask you etc...

* You have to ask your kids what are their liking and dislikings... 

Most of the parent's will said we already know....... You know... But ever you ask your kid about it?

So start to ask him/her.

* Watch TV with your kids. Even they are watching cartoons or kid's stories. Also, communicate while watching. So that he talks to you like a friend.

* Always ask the reason behind doing anything whether he do anything right or wrong. It will help to improve the decision-making skills of your child.

* Always take minimum one meal with your kids.

* Sleep with your kids if possible. 

Nowadays, Most of the parents feel its trend and their children will become independent to do this.

This is wrong-- Kids are kids they don't have that kind of thinking skills to understand what is right or wrong? You think that they are studying or sleeping. But, maybe they are not doing what you think. 

A friend never leaves his friend alone for a single moment. Then why you? 

Even most of the parents give mobile phones to their kids. If someone asks then they said we give them for study or their safety.

As I discussed with you all in my last blog that Is mobile safe for my kids..... you all still think so.

I have an activity which will help you: 

If you are parents you will understand where you are lacking

If you are younger. Then, how to improve your relation

For the activity keep reading my blog regularly.